5 Of The Only Things You Need to Know About (Real) Women
By: Miss Adventures
Awhile back I penned a blog about all of the fakes
we encounter, thanks to today’s digital world full of nothing but highlight
reels on social media and plethoras of plastic surgery cases that seem to
extend into an Ikea-esque lifestyle of everyone wanting to look the fucking
same. In this piece, I discussed the importance of being REAL. Not just in “real
life” but also in your very own digital palace of the online world. Why?
Because when people eventually know you, do business with you or even start to
get to know you, the REAL you comes out….regardless of how craftily you try to
shroud it under the multiple layers of bullshit you try to portray online.
Yeah. I said it.
And yes, person who is guilty of this sin, over and over
again, I AM talking to you.
What of it?
This leads me to another point, however. In a world full of
fake people, in a world where you literally have to CSI the shit out of things
to get down to the nitty gritty of who is real and who is not (and even then
you are wrong most times – says the voice of experience), I watched a video the
other day that gave me a chuckle….because it was REAL.
Everyone is talking about Ronda Rousey right now. And they
should. Afterall, the woman is a bonafide badass. She’s also not a DNB (Do
Nuthin’ Bitch).
I was born to do more than just be pretty and fuck millionaires.
Brilliantly said.
Naturally, this got me to thinking about all the DNB’s I’ve
known, and it led me to craft a list of common character traits shared by real
women; traits that DNB’s simply don’t possess, because they lack intestinal
fortitude….and character….and a decent personality….and….well, that’s an
entirely new list, isn’t it?
So, without further ado, I present you with a comprehensive list
of five simple things you need to know about (real) women.
#1: Real women take ZERO shit. From anyone.
It doesn’t matter if it’s their partner, their spouse, their
mother, their father or even their child, when people are shitty, or do shitty
things, real women will call them out on their shittiness, or ignorance or
ineptitude. And some people don’t like that, but the best ones (people) respect
that. And that’s the thing about real women, they only have time for people who
respect that, not lily-livered, candyass pansies who just don’t “get it”. As far as real women are concerned, the former
type of folk can go fuck off…over there. WAY over there. (And stay there.)
#2: Real women handle their own business.
Real women do not (I repeat) DO NOT need a caretaker. They
don’t need a guardian. They don’t need a man. They can handle their own shit,
pay their own bills and are completely, 100% independent. They don’t front a
lifestyle of being independent, while trading sexual favors for a few bucks, a
complimentary dinner or a free vacation. Real women go to the store with no makeup
on and have an innate gift of just not give a rat’s ass what people think, because
real women know who and what they are….everyone else be damned.
#3: Real women care, even when they are mad.
If a real woman is angry with you, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t
care, but it does mean you’d better buck up and change the error of your ways
if you want a little tenderness. Yet, despite her stone cold demeanor when she
is upset, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t care, she just won’t give you leeway
unless leeway is well deserved.
#4: Real women own up, they don’t place blame.
Real women can admit to their faults, their mistakes and
their shortcomings. Real women know they aren’t perfect. Hell, they don’t even try
to be. Their entire hat is hung up on the coatrack of acceptance of knowing
they aren’t (nor will ever be) perfect. Real women don’t gossip. Real women don’t
spread rumors. Real women just…don’t. Real women can convey a story and explain
exactly how they were wrong in a situation, even if they weren’t 100% wrong.
#5: Real women are just….real, and they need real love,
probably more than any fake bitch you’ll ever meet.
Yes, real women are tough. They are probably the toughest of
the tough of any woman you will ever know, but that doesn’t mean you get to
take them for granted in the tenderness department. Real women won’t stand for
that either. Real women crave tenderness too. Real women need to know you love
them, you value them, you place them above all others. Real women want their
hands held, their backs rubbed, their basic human needs met, without having to
sacrifice their independence to be subservient to another human being, or
having to answer to someone (without reason). And if you fall down on this one,
a real woman will leave your ass faster than you can blink your narcissistic
eyelashes. A real woman will be as much about YOU as you are about HER, but she
doesn’t want you to be dependent, or to be dependent on you. There’s a balance
there, and if you aren’t willing to walk that tightrope, step off.
I could have written a number six, but this one should go
without saying….for EVERY woman and man out there, so I didn’t.
A REAL woman, a REAL man is loyal without fault, beyond a shadow
of a doubt. A real PERSON will eliminate all opportunities for doubt or
disloyalty when they commit to someone else. People who are real will never
leave open doors in places where doors need to be slammed and nailed shut. They
will be clear and concise with other people about this, and upfront about it,
100% of the time. A real person will not allow for even the slightest opportunity
of the past to sabotage their future. Ever. Online or off. They will delete, block
and eliminate anything else that could jeopardize it, without fail and without
question. Because they expect the same in return.
Of course, right now you are trying to justify your own
bullshit on this one. You’re saying, “But I’m different, my situation is
different, you just don’t understand….”
Bullshit.
You’re not different. Your situation is not different. And
yes, I do understand. The longer you keep the past around, the more time you
give the past to come calling and sabotage your future. And? The more you’re
wrong for it.
The harder your hold on to your past, the harder your past
holds on to you. Trouble is, your future isn’t meant to spend looking backward.
So why do you keep looking there? If something real was there, it would have
stayed with you from then until now. It would check up on you without
prompting. It would have followed you. It would refuse to let you go. It wouldn’t
go quietly into any goodnight. Real things don’t end. Fake things do.
Not all chapters in life are meant to be left open. In fact,
most aren’t. The longer you let any soul tie linger, the longer you block the
soul tie you should have in your future, and the longer you torture the people
who want to have a soul tie with you; a future with you; something real, in
lieu of something fake, superficial and meaningless.
Snip. Snip. Snip.
Either trim the fat in your life, or let the fat in your life become the obesity of a present you will never be happy with, thanks to your insatiable emotional gluttony.
But here’s the one thing you really need to remember today,
tomorrow and in life in general: Anything less than real just isn’t real. It
never will be either.
Share this with all the “real” people in your life to let
them know how much you appreciate them. I know I appreciate mine.
From me to you, with love,
Miss Adventures
Well said. I still cry when I see the picture of My mom and my little girl--tears of love & gratitude of my past. No obesity--just thankfulness!
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