5 Reasons I Am Grateful I Never “Fit In”
By: Miss Adventures
Round peg…square hole. Story of my life. I’m not accepted by
most, but am still respected and loved by many. What I learned early on is that
some brains (or hearts) don’t mesh well with others. And that’s okay. Mine
doesn’t mesh well with the masses. And I’m totally okay with that.
Mine isn’t supposed to. It’s my job to challenge, to push,
to give you limitless boundaries.
That’s what I’m here to do.
And that pisses some folks off.
I’m okay with that.
Over the past three years I have shrugged off the gossipers,
the liars, the fakes, the phonies and the meaningless meanders through life. Even
if some folks in my life still hold them close, that’s not my business….or my
problem. Even if that means I have to distance myself from those who do also,
it’s because I have learned to be radically selfish with my time.
Because time is the one commodity we can’t make more of.
I’m okay with that too.
Because I want to live my life on purpose. Not as a reaction
to events, but rather, as a force all my own.
Many people don’t like that.
I’m okay with that too.
Because it’s not for the one hater, gossiper, drama monger
or liar that I write…it’s for me, but it’s more for the ones out there who don’t
have a voice yet, the five or six people who message me to say thank you.
Because there are five incredible reasons that I am eternally grateful for
never fitting in….and never wanting to fit in anyway. And maybe, just maybe,
some of this applies to you too.
1.
Fitting in is over rated
What is “fitting in” anyway? You have to drown yourself
enough to be palatable to other people? No thank you. I’d rather not. I’d
rather live out loud, fiercely, fearlessly and let the chips fall where they
may. Because you never know when tomorrow might be your last one.
2.
Fitting in means you get drug down
Conforming to the standards other people have drags down
free spirits. It suffocates them. I spent far too many years in stifling agony
to ever try THAT again. Up is the only direction this free spirit knows
anymore.
3.
Fitting in means you never find “you”
I told a friend tonight, that if you are trying to find
yourself, you’re doing it wrong. Figure out who you were before the world told
you to be something else. Find your North Star. Reinvent yourself. Once, twice…a
million times. Life is a journey, not an event. If you can’t find joy in the
journey….you haven’t found joy, and if you never try to find it, you didn’t
deserve it anyway.
4.
Fitting in means molding yourself to others
standards….not yours
“Tone it down.” “Calm down.” “Don’t
be so…you.” Never. Never again will I tone it down, calm down or not be me.
Feeling things deeply is my super power. I’m an empathetic badass, and when you
realize that, you have earned my respect – a thing no longer easy to do. I don’t
live my life, or say what I say for you to be comfortable, for you to feel
safe, I do it for me and because I know there are hundreds…thousands of people
just like me who are seeking, but who don’t have a voice yet. So I step up as
the reluctant leader….because I find my voice quite easily, and I’m no longer
afraid to use it.
I also won’t infringe on your
life, insert myself where I don’t belong, spy on you or worry about what you’re
doing. I’m too busy doing me. I’m too busy exercising my superpower of empathy,
love and showing other people like me that they are NOT alone. At all. And they
never were in the first place. Hello, tribe.
5.
Fitting in robs you of your magic
We are all born with a selective amount of magic. The ironic
thing is that most of us waste it on trying to “fit in”….so we lose it. We see
glimpses of our long lost magic in falling stars, full moons, blooming flowers
and moments that make our tattered hearts feel whole. But that’s the thing….we
still lose it…if we aren’t careful. That’s why I never want to fit in. I’d
rather stay in touch with my magic than lose it again because I had to reign
myself in, water myself down….to make anyone else feel comfortable.
And that? That’s real. Take it for what you will, but not
fitting in isn’t a bad thing. And not allowing people who are so encompassed
with others who are so absorbed in fitting in into your life isn’t a bad thing
either.
So? Never try to fit in if you were born to stand out….if you
were born to stand out, then stand the fuck out. And do it with pride. Because
the world needs more people like YOU. It has more than enough fitter-inners
already.
Much love,
Miss Adventures
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