You can’t keep beating on a wall hoping that, someday, it
will miraculously turn into a door. It won’t. A wall is a wall. No matter how
many murals you paint on a wall, to try and make it morph into a door, or however many thousands of attractive landscapes you put on any wall or even how many visions you impart on a wall of a place you’d like to live out the
rest of your days…the fact remains about walls: no matter what you do, walls
will still (forever) be walls. That’s just what walls are. And, what's more is this: that's exactly what walls are
supposed to be....walls.
Otherwise, they just wouldn’t be walls. They'd be...something they weren't supposed to be to begin with.
People are like that too.
When I was young and naive, I used to believe that everyone
could change. Now that I’m older and wiser, I realize that only the best people
do – change, that is. When I was younger and naïve, I used to believe that
everyone was made up of doors. As I have grown older and wiser, I have come to
realize that people do an incredible job of painting murals on their walls –
things that look an awful lot like doors, but that are still (alas) walls…where
doors ought to be.
And…it is what it is.
“Look, everyone in life is an asshole. They are just higher or lesser degrees of asshole…myself included. You just have to pick the people who are the degree of asshole you can contend with, and that’s that. All the other assholes need to fall away.”
I still believe this to be true.
There are people I have known for 20 or 30 years now who
have never changed. There are others who I have known for the same amount of
time who have reinvented themselves a million times over. I like those latter types
of assholes. A lot.
The former?
Not so much.
Honestly, it comes down to a simple worthsmith-worthy mathematic-esque
equation, that looks a lot like this:
Change + changing = growth.
Staying the same = an eternity is assholedom.
Not getting what you want out of life? Look at who you are
hanging around with….but also look at what and who you keep holding ON to.
If you keep holding on to the ghosts of the past, you will never find happiness in the present.
You just…won’t. It isn’t until you are strong enough to let go of the past that you can truly embrace the gift that is your present….and your future. If you keep looking in your rearview, don’t piss and moan when you rear end the car in front of you….because you were looking in the wrong direction all along. Forward motion is everything. Turn the page, write a new chapter and stop holding on to things that just aren’t meant for you.
If you keep holding on to the ghosts of the past, you will never find happiness in the present.
You just…won’t. It isn’t until you are strong enough to let go of the past that you can truly embrace the gift that is your present….and your future. If you keep looking in your rearview, don’t piss and moan when you rear end the car in front of you….because you were looking in the wrong direction all along. Forward motion is everything. Turn the page, write a new chapter and stop holding on to things that just aren’t meant for you.
Paint a mural of a door where your largest and most fierce-some wall used to be….and let’s see if you’re strong enough to make that mural
of yours into a door. Then, leave us a comment and tell us how you did it, and
share this with someone who needs it. Because, I can promise you….someone does.
Love,
Miss Adventures
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