Miss Adventures

1. Self-esteem or subliminal motivational videos or audio recordings. Schedule about 15-20 minutes a day and watch or listen to them. This routine may seem silly, but it does work. The more confident you are, the less you whine and complain.
2. Stop taking everything so personally. I promise you there is nobody in this world committed to making you the focus of their life. Their focus is ALWAYS about them, the way they are feeling and about how they feel. Once you realize this and let go, you will have so much more energy and time to keep up with your life.
3. Make a list of everything you accomplish every day. Do this at the end of each day and then plan your next day. You will see all you have managed to get done and it will inspire you to plan the next day. None of us gives ourselves the credit we give to others, and it hurts us.
4. Watch the way you talk to yourself. If you wouldn’t talk to someone else that way then stop talking to yourself that way. If you wouldn’t want someone to talk to you, that way then don’t talk to yourself that way. Why do you deserve less than someone else? This goes back to self-confidence, and it is your job to treat you the way you want others to treat you. You are setting the example for others to follow.
5. Stop whining, complaining and sniveling. If your life isn’t the way you want, it’s because of your choices. If your job sucks, get a different job. Oh...you can’t because insert excuse here? Nope, you can’t because you accept your excuse. Don’t like where you’re living? Move. Oh...you can’t because insert excuse here? Nope, you can’t because you accept your excuse. Here’s an example “I can’t start a blog because I don’t have a computer.” “Not having a computer” is an excuse. There are libraries with computers you can use.
6. Stop letting other people walk all over you. Next time someone wants you to do something different than what you have planned, simply say “No.” It is a complete sentence, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation. If people are used to you explaining things will be a little awkward but they will get used to it...and so will you. This goes back to self-confidence. Seeing a pattern here?
7. Want to start a business but your husband, friends, and family tell you it’s a bad idea or try to talk you out of it? First off, they are usually the worst people to talk to about something like this unless they have one of their own. You should look for Facebook groups, forums or do a search for advice on the internet. Talk to the SBA, they have tons of resources for you to browse and people ready to help you. Most of the time, people you know want you to stay the same because it scares them for you to change. It scares them because they don’t want you to change and because it makes them feel unsuccessful. It’s always about them and not in the best interest of your plans or goals.
8. If you don’t have a booger hanging out of your nose then get out there and meet people, network. Hell, even if you do have a booger, get out there because people will remember you. Just kidding but all of us can feel like we have to have perfect hair, the right clothes or any number of other excuses to stay in our “safe” zone. Guess what? Those people you are going to get out there and meet have the same feelings. The difference? They got out there...booger and all.
9. Do something new each and every week. Something you have never done or you are afraid to do. This will show you that sometimes what you fear is nothing to fear at all. Maybe you are still afraid or uncomfortable afterward, but you can still say you did it, and that will sure boost your confidence. There’s that “C” word again.
10. Reach out to someone you feel would listen to you and talk to them. Maybe a mentor, a friend, a coworker or anyone you trust. Sometimes all we need is to lay it out to someone else. Maybe they have some ideas for you, maybe you realize something while talking about it, or maybe they just give you the support you need by listening. I promise it will be worth it.