What would you tell your best friend?
By: Miss Adventures
I hate quitting. Actually, I hate quitters. I have always
believed that your commitment to something, to someone, is tantamount to who
you are. I have always believed this, because I have this crazy, old-school
mentality that leads me to the drinking from the chalice of hope at the altar
of “everything can be worked out.” But, what if it can’t? I (now) also think
there is honor in (as Kenny Rogers put it) knowing when to walk away, and when
to run.
As I found myself in the last few days hitting a panic
spiral of epic proportion, all of a sudden, I got this email asking a question
about panic spirals, and advising me to tell myself the same thing that I would
tell my best friend.
“What the hell?” I thought. Might as well give it a go.
So? I did. I sat down at my desk, grabbed up my notepad and
wrote a list of things I would tell my best friend.
- Get up
- Go take a shower
- Clean something
- Take care of the dogs
- Get to work
- Focus on shit that matters and quit focusing on shit that doesn’t
- Get your shit together
- Pay the bills
- Stop wishing things would change or be different and make yourself change and be different instead
- Put your big girl panties on
- Suck it up
- Write hard and clear about what hurts. Then, let it go
- Stop hiding from shit and handle it
And that’s exactly what I would tell my best friend if she
were in my shoes. So? I got up, I took a shower, I cleaned something, and I got
to work writing hard and clear about what hurts. And, at 1:38 in the afternoon,
I am still working on the rest of the list, and might very well be working on
some segments of that list for weeks and years ahead, it was probably the best
advice I could get right now, and it was exactly what I needed to hear. Maybe
sometimes, the best advice we can get doesn’t come from external sources….maybe
sometimes the best advice we can get comes directly from our heart, and maybe
that’s because we know what we need to hear the most.
Three items down, 10 to go.
If you could write a list of things that you would tell your
best friend right now, what would it say?
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