Finding Mr. or Ms. “Right”...Now




It seems as though everyone is on a quest this week to find Mr. or Ms. “Right”...or at the very least, Mr. or Ms. Right Now. What’s the deal with the scramble for last minute Valentine’s Day love anyway? Is there a contest? A prize? A world record that you all are going for? I’d really like to be cut in on this deal…or at the very least get some insight into what’s up.

However, you’re going about it all wrong. Here’s a sad, horrible, bitter and nasty truth. In fact, you might not even be ready to hear it, but I’m going to tell you anyway:

You have probably already met the love of your life, the person you are supposed to be with, but you either “A” already screwed it up, “B” didn’t follow up or “C” were too scared to follow through. You were so busy chasing your own tail that the one person who could be your “everything” slipped right through your fingers, and you let it happen.

Look up here.

And now, you’re stuck with ‘everyone else’. What’s worse is that it’s your own fault. Here are some primary reasons why:

You let your fear cloud your judgment.
You spent too much time listening to your head, not your heart.
You let yourself get in the way.
You made excuses, not exceptions.
You play too rigidly from your rulebook.
You didn’t try hard enough.
You didn’t try at all.
You made too many assumptions.
You didn’t listen.

So now you sit alone, lonely and miserable, scrambling to find someone to occupy your time for dinner…or whatever…on the ‘most romantic day of the year’ -- cue vomit, for me anyway. Your life is full of regrets and “what if” moments. And, frankly, you kind of suck.

Now, here is a thought for you, and I really want you to ponder this for a moment. You might not be ready for this either, but I’m going to drop some knowledge on you: Quit waiting and start doing. Stop with the what ifs and give something you once thought was lost another shot. And do it because you owe it to yourself, and maybe, even to them.

Call, email or text the “one who got away” -- obviously only if they are single, you don’t need to be chasing after people in a relationship -- and try again. Except this time, try harder. Or, really try for the first time. Start over. Clean slate it. And then, see what happens. You might just surprise yourself. Heck, you might even surprise them.

Instead of waiting for Mr. or Ms. Right (or even Right Now) to drop magically into your charmed lap, try finding something you lost with the one person you never thought you’d lose, except this time, don’t lose them.

Because you never know unless you try, now do you? And remember: NOTHING works unless YOU do.

Now, that’s about as romantic as I get. So I hope you all enjoyed that, because it’s not happening again until next year. I leave you on this V-day eve with what was probably the most endearing song I have heard in a long time, and it’s one to add to the “Soundtrack of Life”. Once you are finished listening, go do what I told you to do and let me know what happened in the comments below -- if for no other reason than that I’m nosey and enjoy living vicariously through you people! And check back tomorrow for the results (and photos) of the first inaugural “Bitter Bash”. 


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