It seems as though everyone is on a quest this week to find
Mr. or Ms. “Right”...or at the very least, Mr. or Ms. Right Now. What’s the
deal with the scramble for last minute Valentine’s Day love anyway? Is there a
contest? A prize? A world record that you all are going for? I’d really like to
be cut in on this deal…or at the very least get some insight into what’s up.
However, you’re going about it all wrong. Here’s a sad,
horrible, bitter and nasty truth. In fact, you might not even be ready to hear
it, but I’m going to tell you anyway:
You have probably
already met the love of your life, the person you are supposed to be with, but
you either “A” already screwed it up, “B” didn’t follow up or “C” were too scared
to follow through. You were so busy chasing your own tail that the one person
who could be your “everything” slipped right through your fingers, and you let
it happen.
Look up here.
And now, you’re stuck with ‘everyone else’. What’s worse is
that it’s your own fault. Here are some primary reasons why:
You let your fear
cloud your judgment.
You spent too much
time listening to your head, not your heart.
You let yourself get
in the way.
You made excuses, not
exceptions.
You play too rigidly
from your rulebook.
You didn’t try hard
enough.
You didn’t try at all.
You made too many
assumptions.
You didn’t listen.
So now you sit alone, lonely and miserable, scrambling to
find someone to occupy your time for dinner…or whatever…on the ‘most romantic
day of the year’ -- cue vomit, for me anyway. Your life is full of regrets and “what
if” moments. And, frankly, you kind of suck.
Now, here is a thought for you, and I really want you to ponder this for a moment. You might not be ready
for this either, but I’m going to drop some knowledge on you: Quit waiting and
start doing. Stop with the what ifs and give something you once thought was
lost another shot. And do it because you owe it to yourself, and maybe, even to
them.
Call, email or text
the “one who got away” -- obviously only if they are single, you don’t need to
be chasing after people in a relationship -- and try again. Except this time,
try harder. Or, really try for the first time. Start over. Clean slate it. And
then, see what happens. You might just surprise yourself. Heck, you might even
surprise them.
Instead of waiting for Mr. or Ms. Right (or even Right Now)
to drop magically into your charmed lap, try finding something you lost with
the one person you never thought you’d lose, except this time, don’t lose them.
Because you never
know unless you try, now do you? And remember: NOTHING works unless YOU do.
Now, that’s about as romantic as I get. So I hope you all
enjoyed that, because it’s not happening again until next year. I leave you on
this V-day eve with what was probably the most endearing song I have heard in a
long time, and it’s one to add to the “Soundtrack of Life”. Once you are
finished listening, go do what I told you to do and let me know what happened
in the comments below -- if for no other reason than that I’m nosey and enjoy
living vicariously through you people! And check back tomorrow for the results (and
photos) of the first inaugural “Bitter Bash”.
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