I
read a quote once. It read, “You become like the five people you associate with
the most.”
And,
it’s true…for better or for worse.
Plato once said, “People are like dirt. They can either nourish
you and help you grow as a person, or they can stunt your growth and make you
wilt and die.”
But here is what this quote doesn’t tell you. It
doesn’t tell you that when you are immersed in circles that stunt your growth,
that make you wilt and die, that you will forsake those who have been trying to
lift you up all along; the people you could learn from, the people who forced
you to become better, just because they wanted you to rise up to a different
level, while you were too busy not paying attention.
Give
everyone the opportunity to be a friend, but share your dreams and goals only
with those who value them as much as you do.
·
Hard-hearted is
choosing friends because of who they are.
·
Mental toughness is
choosing friends because of who you want to become.
And this extends down both sides of the
friendship branch.
Mind you, I am not in any way shape or form
saying that people in my past circles are bad people. What I am saying is that
they were bad for me, because they just weren’t aligned with where I was going.
And I’m not saying that I wasn’t bad for them for those same reasons, either
mind you. I’m not that arrogant.
But that’s okay.
That’s how we grow.
As you think about those in your nearest
circle right now, how do you feel? Do they build you up, tear you down or keep
you doing the same tired things you always have?
I can tell you that I no longer go out to
bars, or to clubs or out drinking all the time. Because I changed that circle.
I can tell you that I no longer am immersed in
gossip and unnecessary drama. Because I changed that circle.
I can tell you that I am no longer a hateful,
catty person. Because I changed that circle.
I can tell you that I’ve made some mistakes
along the way too. But, life isn’t meant to be lived backwards. So? Forward it
is.
I’ve done things I’m not proud of. I’ve also
done things I am extremely proud of. And I can say, right here, right now, this
moment, I have very few people in my life who know the daily inner workings of
it, thanks to an invaluable lesson I learned over the years.
Ready?
Less people, less bullshit.
That doesn’t mean I am not friendly to people.
I am. But, it also doesn’t mean you get in my inner circle unless you have been
successfully vetted, either. Because that is something I protect with the
utmost care at this point in my life. And I only have time to focus on people
who force me to grow and become better.
Because it’s true what they say, people either
encourage you, or they drain you.
Hate your life? Wonder why bad things are
always happening to you? Look at who you are hanging out with. Are you hanging
out with people who do nothing but go out and party all the time, spend all
their money, use people, have issues with the truth, are fake, treat people
badly, have nothing better to do than talk shit about people?
There’s your answer – for better or worse.
Eliminate those types of people and you
eliminate the problem.
Want to change your life?
Change your circle, change your environment and
your life will improve. Dramatically. Quickly.
Of course, if you're happy with where you're at....by all means, keep doing what you're doing.
At least, if you are REALLY happy with your life.
Bad company corrupts good character, 100
percent of the time. And if your company isn’t encouraging you to be the best
you can possibly be, to rise to new heights, who can teach and encourage you,
make no mistake….you’re in bad company.
Unhappy? Fix it. Throw the baggage of
yesterday overboard, adjust your sails and get back on course. You don’t have
forever. You might not even have tomorrow, so stop wasting today with temporary
escapes from reality that are truly only distractions keeping you prisoner in a
reality not intended to be your destiny.
Love,
Miss Adventures
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