What Exactly Is It That You Need?
By: Miss Adventures
I read a book once about how your heart is like a bank
account. People put money in when they say or do nice things, and people
extract money when they do or say not-so-nice-things. And pondering on this,
got me wondering if my own emotional bank account was overdraft or if it was
heavy laden with coin. I wonder what the ledger of your own heart would say if
you had to look at it right now?
For everyone we meet has a basic need. Everyone really just
wants to be loved.
But how?
While I understand that people give and receive affection
differently, isn’t that overt affection the one thing that we all need as human
beings? Something to show us that we are loved the way we need to be loved?
I’m not talking about lavish gifts, vacations or diamond
rings, I’m talking about the little things everyday that make deposits into our
emotional bank account and the other little things that subtract from it.
But does everyone need to be loved in the same way?
I think it far more profound and a far more interesting idea
to figure out exactly how we need to be loved, how to love ourselves in that
way, and figure out whatever our emotional bank needs in order to feel as
though it’s full. Because I think, in this regard, that we are all a little
different.
I liken it to shopping for banks. You don’t know where you
are going to put your money until you know where you are going to put your
money, right? So how can you possibly know how much or how little to invest in
your heart, until you have answered the question of what sort (and amount) of
love and affection it requires for that heart to be full. I.e. where are you
going to put it all?
How much love do you need in order to be happy?
What exactly is it that you need?
Maybe it isn’t always about finding someone else to fill the
void of our emotional bank accounts, maybe it’s more about loving ourselves
enough to fill it ourselves.
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